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We're Just Friends and Other Dating Lies: Practical Wisdom for Healthy Relationships
By Chuck Milian
Foreword by Larry Richards
Safely Navigating the Dating Minefield
Hurt feelings, unmet expectations, dashed hopes, misplaced trust - these are just some of the potential time bombs that explode in dating relationships leaving a trail of broken hearts. Does it have to be this way? Do you have to stop dating to protect yourself and others from deep hurt?
As a pastor of a large congregation and former singles pastor, author Chuck Milian has seen firsthand the broken relationships that occur when men and women don't move with proactive care in and through their dating relationships. With pastoral wisdom and insight, Milian educates readers about defining expectations before they start dating, and he outlines a specific five-step dating plan that will help limit relational damage as they look for someone to share their lives with. The author encourages, challenges, and instructs believers in this comprehensive how-to-date handbook. He gives practical advice on wisely forming relationships with the opposite sex while still having fun, avoiding unnecessary hurts, making lifelong friends, and knowing "where they are" each step of the way. Filled with personal reflections and insights, singles will take a look back at their past relational mishaps and move forward into a biblically healthy and romantically fulfilling relationship as God intended it to be. This book remedies and reduces the casualties of the current dating minefield where hearts get broken daily and sometimes never recover.
Chuck Milian, M.A., has served as the senior pastor at Crossroads Fellowship in Raleigh, NC since 2001. From 1991 to 1999, he was the singles pastor, followed by two years as the executive pastor. Prior to that, he was president of a statewide singles ministry called SOLO, Inc. He and his wife Kim have been married for more than twenty years and have two sons. Chuck is passionate about helping people begin a relationship with God and seeing people grow to maturity as followers of Christ.
"Written with clarity and refreshing honesty, this book will be your companion guide into healthy and fulfilling dating relationships. Reading it is like having a personal coach in understanding what God really meant relationships to be. It's a much-needed resource you will pull off your shelf again and again."
Author of Sex and the Soul of a Woman and Strong Women, Soft Hearts
"Once in a great while, an author is discovered with a new work that is totally fresh, yet deeply penetrating, with the potential to radically transform an entire generation. Chuck Milian is that author, and this is that book. It's chock full of great ideas, stories, and wise counsel that, a generation from now, may well be credited with reducing the epidemically high divorce rate raging in our country and around the world."
Dr. Mark Cress
President, Corporate Chaplains of America
"Countless singles can learn to date in healthy and effective ways by putting into practice the practical and biblical solutions found in this book. This book will help singles not only survive, but also enjoy the sometimes confusing process of dating."
Founder and President of Ministry Advantage
"Being in youth ministry for 16 years it is hard to find a good resource to assist students on their life journey and to specifically help them with relationships. Chuck Milian's book it a great resource that should be in every Youth Pastor's office and used as a guide in working with students and their need to have healthy relationships. Chuck is a great communicator and I have heard him teach these truths to students with incredible feedback and results."
Crossroads Fellowship Student Ministries Pastor & Multi-Site Campus Pastor
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We're Just Friends and Other Dating Lies